I wish there was another term we could use besides “swingers”. Many people who really aren’t vanilla simply don’t want to associate themselves with the word. For them, like so many in society, it conjures up 70′s key parties and indiscriminate sex.
As much as we’ve tried, as much as every club owner and seasoned swinger we know has tried, we just can’t find another word to replace it. Many of us use the term “Lifestyle”, but so do poly’s, naturists, people in the BDSM community and many others. None of them use “swingers” however, and just as Las Vegas is our city, so that is our word. If you can suggest an alternative please let me know and we’ll publish it like crazy on Kasidie.com!
So how do these non-vanilla’s refer to themselves? They don’t. It’s pretty cool in a way, they enjoy spending intimate time with friends and neighbors, often spicing up adult fun at dinner parties, in their Jacuzzi’s, and on trips together…and never stop to think about it. Worry free, guilt free, and just living life out loud.
We’ve met many of these couples at business functions and at vanilla events. You can tell by the way they dress, the way they flirt, and their eye contact that there is something more fun to them then the rest of the crowd. When we out ourselves to them they are quick to discuss sexuality, but insist that while they like to fuck their friends they are “not” swingers. And they are always surprised to find out that we are, seeing as we don’t match their preconceived image of the label. lol.
I think every such couple we’ve met has since gotten an account on Kasidie and is now happier than ever, making friends and going to parties.
Now if we could just come up with a different label…
Every year we walk the show floor at the Adult Entertainment Expo at the Sands Convention Center. This year it was way off in terms of both attendance and exhibitors. So why exactly would we, as swingers, bother to attend the AEE? Well, technically we are in the adult industry, even if we are not pornographers, but it’s a good place to meet people with adult and clothing-optional travel agencies, and who manufacture vibrators and other sex toys which we can use in our play tests. Plus of course we look for partnerships that make sense; those adult businesses that are interesting to the swinger community.
One neat moment was when we got Larry Flynt to sign an autograph. We admire him for so many reasons, as an entreprenuer with amazing gut instincts, and as a true fighter for civil liberties.
And, frankly, we also love AVN because it’s a hell of a party. Not the porn star parties (quite boring, actually); I’m talking about all the swinger parties that are hosted by Bliss (at Planet Hollywood) and PurrfectLV (at Mandalay Bay and THE Hotel). Hundreds of hot, young couples drinking, dancing and partying, none of whom have the slightest interest in AEE or AVN and are simply there to cut loose and have some fun.
And what about the Adult Video Awards themselves? Absolutely no idea, we’ve never been to them. Maybe someday kasidie.com will produce some porn for couples, and then we might go if nominated for an AVN award, but otherwise it really isn’t our place of business.
Nicoleta getting an autograph from Larry Flynt
Nicoleta gets an autograph from Larry Flynt
