How many times will we hook-up at Desire, Hedo, on a swingers cruise, or on a swinger trip?
December 5, 2009
The short answer is “less than you might think“. We have gone on vacations and trips, both as part of a group and by ourselves. We’ve had fantasies of sex several times a day, every day. The reality, for most people (including us) is quite different.
Keep in mind the lifestyle axiom that you come for the sex, but stay for the friendships. Think of all the people you’ve met, some of whom you are close friends with but for one reason or another just haven’t played with. These resorts and trips aren’t any different.
Just like your local club or house party, a resort or cruise ship isn’t about indiscriminate sex. There has to be sexual chemistry. Sure, alcohol and skimpy clothes (or no clothes) combined with an exotic location far away from home certainly leads to removing inhibitions…but that doesn’t mean changing the core of what turns you on.
So, to more directly answer the question, you can usually count on hooking up about 2 times on a one-week vacation. Sure, some people are rock stars, with great game and an assertive approach and thus blow that average away. And others are shy, slow to say “hi” and introduce themselves and may wind up not playing with anyone other than their significant other.
You can change that average though. Here’s how!
- Get in shape before you go as best you can
- Go with a group you have a pretty good idea that you fit in with
- Dress hot, bring clothes that make you look AND FEEL sexy
- Don’t get completely shitfaced drunk
- Be respectful, they may or may not be into you but until you ask THE question, “do you guys want to play”, you won’t know for sure (and take a “no thanks, not right now” gracefully)
- AND MOST OF ALL – Be assertive, everyone is there to be social so don’t sit back and wait for others
And if it doesn’t work out? So what…you still got to spend a week away from work, family, stress and were able to hang out in a fun, uninhibited environment surrounded by hot eye candy. And you probably had some of the best sex of your lives together.
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Highlights from the 1st Annual Kasidie Takeover of Desire Cancun
October 20, 2009
Our 1st annual takeover of Desire Cancun was incredible! We posted a bunch of pics online this afternoon, check them out in the Party & Travel photo albums on our profile http://www.kasidie.com/Viewprofile.do?method=viewprofile&vid=QkBH . We’ll post even more as soon as we get them from friends, as we were so busy talking and playing that we missed way, way too many photo ops.
Here are some random highlights from the trip…
- A hot, social, non-exclusionary crowd
Dipped in Red, with over 100 Kasidie members making a very large impression on the staff and other guests
Sun, sun and more sun
Sex in the ocean
Sex on the beach beds
Sex in the pool (yeah, we know we weren’t supposed to)
Sex on the Jacuzzi beds
Sex in the playroom behind the disco
Sex in the hotel room (where’d we find the time for that!?)
Body luges at 4:00am
Huge, very noisy after-after party in those insatiable Aussie Cplplay’s suite starting at 5:00am
Nude booze cruise, with the girls Lady Godiva impersonation (on a horse on the beach) literally falling on their heads
2fun2 leading a bus full of people in playing “The Game”. Inverted 69 in a bus seat? You had to be there
Eyes Wide Shut and the huge girl orgy on stage
Lingerie Night, with Mrs. Hostars chasing all the girls onto the stage, stripping them naked, then laying them on the bar for chocolate & champagne drenchings (damn, no cameras allowed in the disco!)
Sexgamers scientific “condoms in the ocean” test; a special thanks to the full swapping participants who verified both the structural integrity and the orgasmic potential of sex in the sea water
Jazzalicious with the almond tequila in the Jacuzzi, and the nacho-cheese body luges at lunch
The handful of nudists (non-swingers) staring wide-eyed at the fun, wondering what the hell they got themselves into when they booked on Hotels.com
Turgtle, the inflatable alligator (one of those “you had to be there to understand” things)
CuriousUs digitizing the Kasidie girl logo for the tattoo artist
Mrs Kasidie, totally uninhibited, usually wandering naked around the resort at all hours Partying until 4:00am or later every single night, sleeping until noon and then napping on the beach
Representatives from party promoters BCDnewyork, TexasPervs, JDsweets, CouplesOasis, and a special shout out to Lola at HedoOnline (be there next year!)
Incredible experiences…fantastic new friends…what a life we all live! And we’re gonna do it again…
With the weather trends (a Cat 5 hurricane is headed for Cabo even as we write this, and it rained the entire month of Sept in Cancun) we’ve decided to shift the annual trip date to April or May…stay tuned for details. Then we’ll do an end-of-summer hotel takeover in Las Vegas over the long Labor Day weekend!
See you soon!
Nicoleta & Scott
