Seize the Day, Advice for Younger Swingers

I was chatting with an older couple at a party the other night, and they recounted stories from the 70′s when they were young and in their prime. They had amazing friends, were active swingers, and had very few regrets. That was their time, and they savored it. They still have a great group of friends, and are very active socially and sexually, but nothing now is quite like their memories from then.

And it occurred to me that “now” is our time. We’re the hot young couple, in our prime, making friendships and living adventures.

Before long this time will pass and it will be another generations turn. We’ll be the older couple watching the all the hotties party. We’ll still have friends, fun parties and great times…but they won’t quite be the same as now, when we’re healthy and have seemingly unlimited energy.

The “now” is short, just a brief moment in time. Watching “The History of Sex” on the Discovery Channel we see the uninhibited times of the Babylonians, the Greeks, the Romans, the Celts, the French Dynasties. And we see the underground sex antics of popes, priests, monarchs, artists, poets, aristocrats and peasants during the middle ages and Victorian times. We see the sexual re-awakenings of the 1920′s and 1960′s. All of these people before us had their time; they drank, they ate, they had incredible sex, and they passed. It’s our turn now, and what will we make of it?

When we look back upon this time in our lives, what will we think? Will we be satisfied, knowing we seized the opportunity and lead our lives fully? Or will we have regrets for things we didn’t do out of fear, miscommunication, assumption or repression? I mean this in all facets of life, of course, but for purposes of this blog I’m referring more specifically to us as a community of swingers, of hedonists, who take pride in living a lifestyle different than those of the vanillas we often make fun of.

So the question is, looking at ourselves right now, are we each living our life without repression, and are we communicating with our mates and our friends about our desires, fantasies and needs? Tomorrow will come, so live today such that there are no regrets. Carpe diem! Send me your thoughts to our account Kasidie on www.kasidie.com by swingers, for swingers.