Sometimes The Grass Really is Greener

I’ve always hated that saying. My mom would use it quite frequently, as change absolutely terrified her (which must have been tough, as she was married to an entrepreneur).

But the simple fact of life, often learned too late by people, is that the grass really is greener on the other side of the fence. A new job can be fulfilling, a new city can be invigorating, and a divorce can be liberating. Sure, change entails risk, and sometimes the new thing is worse than the old, or even disastrous. As a whole, though, change almost always brings about new and wonderful things. It makes life exciting.

So the next time you want to make a change in your life, carefully weigh the options. And if the only thing holding you back is your mothers voice saying “the grass isn’t greener on the other side of the fence” then you know you should probably go for it!

A Swinging Weekend

I’d say that really was a “mission accomplished”. She went into the weekend hungry for social interaction, and horny as hell, having spent the previous 7 weeks visiting with family and (mostly) sitting on a couch in from of a tv.

This weekend the Plush Party, at the Rumor hotel in Las Vegas and co-hosted by Speakeasy, delivered a fatastic set of theme parties. Every day was g-strings (or less) in the pool. Every night was a sexy theme that enabled the girls to wear their skimpiest outfits. The crowd was hot (mostly from LA, but some flew in from other places), there were an endless stream of great DJ’s, and the vibe was erotic.

By the end of the weekend she had talked for countless hours with new friends, she’d gotten an eyeful watching all the sexy guests, and she’d had sex with 4 different guys and 1 incredibly hot girl. By Sunday night, after the last pool party was over and we lounged in a semi-catatonic state from the lack of sleep, she cuddled into me with a happy little sigh.

“Making Up for Lost Time”, Sexually

“We haven’t had sex in awhile”, I said. She looked at me like I was crazy. “I mean with each other.”

It’s true, while she was in Europe with her family, I was having a swinging good time. One of the side bene’s of owning Kasidie.com, I guess, is that even as a solo guy I still get invited to parties. And party I did, while she was camped in front of the tv with parents.

So our conversation continued. Sure, I’d had sex with other girls while she was gone, and every time I told her about it in full, rich, colorful details.

“Well, when I get back” she continued, “I want to make up for lost time.”

Late last week she finally (after 5 weeks) got home. But instead of putting her party, sex-addict game face on she languished couch-bound with jet-lag and her period.

Now, finally recovered, she’s ready to rock. And just in time, as this weekend in Vegas is going to be huge. Lots of parties, almost 1,000 hot, fun people from all over the country. Looking forward to it for us as a couple, for myself as an individual, and quite frankly to see how crazy, slutty and debauched she might get as she makes up for lost time…makes me horny just thinking about it. Stay tuned for an update.

Missed Opportunities

Living life without regrets is not possible. But we can learn from our actions…or, sometimes, inactions.

Overwhelmed by fear or a sense of obligation not of our own making, we will hesitate. This happens often in business, when we are offered the chance to take on a project, start a business, or take our work in a different direction. It entails risk, as everything new always does, and too often we pause and then pass.

And sexually it does as well. We may be horny as hell, or bored with the current routine, but when our spouse (who’s also horny and/or bored) suggests something we hesitate, we pause, and we pass. Later we get angry at ourselves, and all too often this anger morphs and is directed at someone else (our spouse, our parents, our church, etc).

But really it’s us. We made the decision. We passed on the opportunity. Sure, we can be angry…at ourselves. But anger is useless. Realize what you did, and change your mindset so the next time you seize the chance. Life will be better, you will be happier. As long as your decisions are compliant with your (not someone else’s) ethics and morals, you will live as you’ve always dreamed.

Cat’s Away…But Missed No Matter How Much Play

She’s been in Europe for almost 2 weeks now, part of her 6 week visit with family. Most guys (well, every guy I’ve ever known) would use this as an opportunity to go crazy and cheat. Most girls would too (might as well have an affair while abroad, almost doesn’t seem like it counts).

But we in the swinging lifestyle are an exception.

Not because we won’t go a bit crazy and party. We will. I certainly have. Last weekend I went to parties on Friday night, Saturday night, Sunday pool party, and Monday 4th of July party. I drank. I flirted. I had sex with several different girls (all but 1 is married); all of whom, of course, are swingers just as we are.

And she has done the same…and more…over there. Being bisexual, she loves both girls and guys, and isn’t shy about acknowledging how much she loves a good orgasm.

How do I know? Because we talk about it. We share stories. We show each other photos if we had the time and ability to snap a few. No lying, no cheating, no deceit, no guilt.

The whole idea of swinging is “it’s just sex”. We already have a relationship, and that’s solid. But we are free to pursue our social and carnal needs, without fear of it affecting our relationship. So just as she (or I) might go to lunch with a friend (or group of friends), or might go to the beach with people, so we might have sex with them too. It’s fun. It feels good. And that’s the end of it. There’s no threat to our relationship…in fact, just the opposite, since repression, cheating and guilt are removed from the equation we are happier and better together than the majority of people.

So that cat is away. About 7,000 miles away. And I am partying and having sex. So is she. But while those things are nice and fill some time, they don’t replace her, or “us”, and I miss her so much it hurts.

Sin City Swingers Party Weekend in Las Vegas

It’s the start of another weekend, and we’re still recovering from the last one. But oh, what a series of parties!

It started Wednesday, with friends and Kasidie members arriving in town. People grouped together and went to the new Stripper Murder Mystery play. Sexy and fun. After which some people went to a late dinner while others hooked up for some playtime.

Thursday evening with Girls Uncorked, the monthly wine party for women in the lifestyle that happens the 3rd thursday of every month in 19 cities around the country. The Vegas chapter had a lot of visitors this month! The girls drank and talked, and talked and talked. Wrapping up around 10:00pm when the guys arrived to fetch their inebriated wifes and girlfriends. Some stayed at the hostesses house for a private after-party, some went to check out the new Hustler Club, but most locals headed home due to work the next day. But it was an AMAZING party and all the girls had a blast.

Friday was a party at Kasidie Mansion, hosted by Scott and Nicoleta, with a Playboy theme. Over 120 couples and 10 single girls (no single guys) were dressed in theme…most of the girls in skimpy lingerie and many in full Playboy Bunny outfits. DJ’s Cynful and Synchronicity provided the music as people danced, flirted and played until 4:00am. The vibe was absolutely amazing, just fantastic energy. The sad thing about being the hosts at a party is that as much as we say “we’re not going to work, we’re going to enjoy the party and have fun” the reality is that we always wind up working and rarely get the chance to play. But the guests sure did…there were 10 play areas set up around the house, and they were all going crazy with hot, naked couples from start to finish!

Saturday started with a pool party at the Palms. We had a 2 story bungalow and a cabana filled with hot, string-bikini’d girls and their guys. It’s not a topless pool (boo!) but the bikini’s were skimpy and cokctails flowed continuously. A good start for the evening.

Saturday night kicked off at Posh, the new nightclub at the Crazy Horst III strip club. Lasers, great DJ’s, girls dressed in clubwear with very little fabric. We got there at midnight, met people, danced, and flirted until 2:00am when we headed to the after party in the Crib Suite at the Palms. The girls were naked almost from the start, and people were playing in both bedrooms, in the shower (with a stripper pole in it), in the jacuzzi, and even on the pool table in the living room. Complete debauchery and a lot of fun. We left at sunrise, the first one we’ve seen in awhile, with huge smiles on our faces (and a “sore pussy”).

Sunday was all about being topless and flirty at the pool. Everyone partied at the Artisan, where we had cabanas, daybeds and a sectioned off area. The vanillas just watched as our girls flirted with each other, gave lap dances and had a great time in the sun. We left at 6:00pm, exhausted from a long weekend of fun. Did we really have to go back to work? Ahhh….well at least next weekend is Memorial Day!

Playboy Swing Blog, Episode 3

EPISODE 3

THUSDAY/FRIDAY: Kimberly and Michael are the newbie couple. They’re from Boca Raton, very cute and have great energy. Also CNKISS from Utah and 2SEXYASSETS from Las Vegas joined the cast; the energy has spiked big time now that we finally have a great group of residents who are full swap swingers. Clayton and I really connected with the Kimberly (who also had the hots for Megan and Garren), Nicoleta was very into Michael, we hope the cameras got it all!

The weather has been overcast and cool, which makes the outdoor scenes a challenge. It’d also been dampening the vibe in the house. But with the new cast members things have changed and tonight should be a lot of fun!

The theme this evening is Casino Night, so the girls got to dress up elegantly for the first time (and most likely last!) and the guys were styled. We thought we’d nail the theme, with Nicoleta in her gold dress and Scott in full tuxedo, and then Garren comes down wearing only a bow tie; damn, okay, he wins the evening. We played “truth or dare”, filled with sexy interactions which naturally leads to an orgy in the downstairs red room. Everyone in the house is having fun. Naturally the girls lead the show, as they all get naked and play. Then the guys start joining in and it goes wild. We had sex for a long time and really hit it off with Kimberly and Michael. In fact, she may even start a Girls Uncorked chapter in Boca, how cool would that be! The energy eventually winds down, very late it’s just Ashley and Scott messing around in the pool by themselves.

Behind the Scenes Filming Playboy’s New Reality Series ‘Swing’

Episode 2 - (we missed episode 1 due to work obligations)
SUNDAY: Excited. A little nervous. And completely hung-over from the Speakeasy swingers party at Rumor last night (thanks NaughtyNice for buying all those vodka cocktails!) We frantically packed this afternoon and hit the road for LA in a heavy downpour, turning the normal 3 ½ hour drive into 7 hours. What would the house be like? Who else would be there? Would it be uncomfortable to have cameras around 24/7? We talked non-stop, imagining a huge variety of scenarios and setting our personal boundaries for the show (not that there are a lot of those, as we are very sexual).

We arrived at 9:30pm, totally exhausted. Got settled into our room and met the other residents and the production staff…everyone seems really cool. Sleep…we need sleep.

MONDAY: Got up at the crack of noon, feeling much better. Nicoleta unpacked 2 of her suitcases…only 3 more to go. It’s amazing how many suitcases are needed for a swingers trip; whenever anyone travels to a lifestyle resort or takeover, even though it’s nude, you need more clothes than ever just in costumes for the theme nights.

It’s still raining, setting the tone for what’s expected to be a record wet year in southern California. No problem, we’re quite comfy in the 12,000’ Playboy house, all hanging out in the bar drinking, talking, flirting and getting to know each other while waiting for this episodes newbies.

ARRIVAL! The newbie couple, Daniel and Amanda, come down from the master bedroom into the bar. They are from LA and very cute. She quickly makes it clear that she really likes girls and has a fantasy of being tied up. Nicoleta is happy to make that happen for her! Ashley and Jizelle join her and the girls have a great time together. It seems this is WAY ahead of schedule, as the playtime is usually done later in the episode, but Nicoleta wasn’t aware of that as was quick to get the action started, to the delight of the producers (and Amanda!)

The girls are finally orgasm’d out (for now, anyhow) and rejoin the group as it’s time to get ready for tonights theme – Pimp n’ Ho, a classic swinger party as the girls get to dress super slutty, and the guys wear over the top outfits that the girls can make fun of. We talk and flirt, but music isn’t allowed because it would make editing impossible, which is totally understandable but makes it really tough to get a vibe going.

Later, in the beautiful red velvet playroom, Nicoleta asks Amanda if it’s okay to touch Daniel, or if it’s pushing their boundaries past their comfort level. Amanda watches for a moment, thinking about it, and says she isn’t sure, that she doesn’t think she’s feeling comfortable with it, so of course Nicoleta immediately stops. As seasoned swingers we learned a long time ago to not take things personally and that all couples, especially newbies, have different boundaries and need room to take steps.

So, first day recap…the cast is a lot of fun, the production crew are amazing, and the girls have, surprisingly, quickly become comfortable being naked and playing in front of a bunch of guys wearing jeans and sweatshirts carrying cameras and sound booms.

TUESDAY: Low key day, we’re off except for a “goodbye” scene with yesterdays newbies (they have a very busy day of filming and interviews, but the “resident” couples are not involved in all that). So we’re working, doing customer service and helping clubs post and promote their parties around the country. Most of the other cast members are just lounging, talking, swimming, fucking, playing pool, and enjoying the mansion. Nice visit this morning from Amanda, who came in and said that after last night they had a great conversation and decided they want to full swap, and that they would like us to be their first experience; how flattering! Hope we can get together.

We are heading to LA tonight to meet some party promoters and club owners, then spending the night in Long Beach to work with Greg on new site features (Weds is “dark” and not a filming day).
It’s absolutely awesome to see that most of the cast are Kasidie members. Others are from Craig’s List or SexyJobs. For season 2 we’ll definitely have it oversubscribed with couples for them!

The crew…wow…seriously…the crew has been great – respectful, professional and quickly adapting to situations. Got us premium booze and mixers, heated the pool and spa, helpful, just fantastic. None of the cast are uncomfortable, which is saying something since we’re not actors and hot girls would normally be uncomfortable with so many guys around.

Drove to the new club, even midweek there was a HOT group of people. They made Nicoleta the centerpiece/main dish of an orgy. She left quivering and with a huge smile. Got to bed shortly before sunrise.

WEDNESDAY: Our off day. Working in Long Beach. Bought an inkjet printer so Nicoleta can print out membership cards for clubs to give away and can do more work while on set for the next 3 weeks. Eagerly anticipating the upcoming episodes, filled with new couples and erotic adventures!

New Parties Widget

We’re excited to release our new “Parties” widget for affiliates. This represents a HUGE win for us, our affiliates and our clubs. It enables affiliates to literally post Swinger Parties on their websites, and have all the links embeded with their unique Kasidie affiliate tracking code. A way to excite visitors and generate revenue! Plus, even better, the clicks pop open the parties in a new window (thus the user doesn’t leave the affiliates website) AND we use 90 day cookies to ensure the affiliate gets credit even if the user signs up at a later time. Nothing else like it in the swinging lifestyle!

Kasidie Acquires AmericanLowLife in Las Vegas

Kasidie.com acquires Las Vegas swingers community AmericanLowLife.com.

(Las Vegas, NV, May 7, 2010) – Kasidie.com announced today the acquisition of AmericanLowLife.com, the only regional online swingers community serving Las Vegas. By combining their 24,000 mostly local members with the Kasidie national database, the combined firm is now the defacto market leader in Las Vegas catering to the swinging lifestyle and is well positioned to continue its growth in nearby Southern California and the Pacific southwest. The combined firm already has over 275 swingers parties posted nationally, and 84 just for Nevada and California.

“We are very excited to be part of the Kasidie team” said Bruce Dyer, AmericanLowLife’s founder and President, “with their technology platform and features we finally get to offer our members a full set of social features, while retaining the ability to provide irreverent insights and information to the global audience of Las Vegas visitors”. Scott Purcell, Kasidie’s President added “AmericanLowLife has a fantastic reputation with both local and national swingers who visit Vegas, which stems from the same core values both organizations share in their passion for the swinging community and focus on customer service. We’re going to do some fantastic things together!”

The engineers from both companies are now working together to import the member accounts into the Kasidie system; no small feat when working with highly disparate database structures. Although the days of free memberships are now gone, the lesson learned is simply that free services simply cannot pay the costs associated with hiring engineers, customer service personnel, and other employees, as well as costs of servers, hosting, internet bandwidth and other business operating expenses. However AmericanLowLife.com will continue as a free portal with information about nightclubs, restaurants, pools, swinger clubs, stage productions and other activities for all Las Vegas visitors.

About Kasidie.com

Created by swingers, www.kasidie.com is a unique social community devoted to the swinging lifestyle. The site has extensive swinger profiles, party listings, travel postings, and club descriptions, along with an affiliate program and relevant utilities, tools and features catering to the global population of 150 million-plus swingers. Kasidie.com is a fun, sexy gathering place for both swingers and curious vanillas (non-swingers) to learn about and join in the swinging lifestyle.

Media Contact
Scott Purcell, Publisher
Kasidie Entertainment, LLC
(702) 882-2525
scott@kasidie.com
www.kasidie.com
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